Make your idols your... friends

In society today it's typical for us to have a 'squad'. That group of guys and/or girls that we surround ourselves with day to day. These are the people we call upon when things get tough and we need a bit of support. In essence these people are our community.

Now, there are various phrases kicking around, things like “make your idols your rivals” “keep your friends close and your enemies closer” as examples. What do these actually mean? There is a sense of competition between you and that other person in both of these statements but what if we look at the message here from another perspective?...


The problem with society today is that it’s all about being better than the person stood next to you. It’s about always trying to get ahead not matter what and this can often lead to unobtainable, unrealistic lifestyles for the general population.

When you look at Instagram and the likes, with men and women reaching insanely low percentages of body fat, rocking around with six pack abs and beach bodies all year round, there is constant pressure from all forms of media on our young women AND men to look a certain way, eat a certain way, and train a certain way in order to FIT IN with the social norms of our time.

This is not a healthy habit for us to form.

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A big problem, in my opinion, within the gym environment today is the loss of community between gym members. Everyone is out to be better than the next person. Everyone wants to be the strongest, leanest, fastest, and so on…. I too have been guilty of this in the past. We compare ourselves to the person two benches over and try to match their weights or reps, or that one person that does all the spin classes and never breaks a sweat, the one person in body pump that loads their bar up with all the weights and then asks for more…

For those that are new to the gym this can be incredibly intimidating.

So how do we change this mentality? It’s exactly that, it’s all about mind set.

We have to create an environment that encourages Me vs Me rather than Me vs You.

I am very lucky to have been part of these kinds of communities – Optimal Strength in Leicester, Synergi Fitness in Bristol and Valesco CrossFit in Bristol.

Let’s take a look at CrossFit for a moment. Now CrossFit gets a lot of grief for many reasons but for all of its faults there is one undeniable fact about this sport. Community and accessibility to everyone regardless of fitness levels or experience is paramount to every CrossFit gym.

The men and women of CrossFit are some of the most elite athletes in the world at the top level. Yet you will still find them training in their local gyms, they travel to other gyms and compete with their friends – other elite CrossFit athletes! They train together, compete together and even play together. They stand on the side lines in competition screaming at their “Rivals” - aka their friends - to push harder, go longer, go faster and lift heavier.

For this community the goal is not to beat your rivals, it’s to make them your friends and use their strengths to help push you past your weaknesses.

Within CrossFit, the competition lies with yourself and not with the other competitors. The other competitors are there doing the same thing as you, trying to do the very best that they can do. And when the going gets tough they support each other until the very end.

Here at Cynisca Personal Training this is an ideology that is close to our hearts. We embrace the uniqueness of each and every one of our clients. We recognise that we all have strengths and we all have weaknesses. We all have people that inspire us and people that we aspire to be like BUT what we all want is to be the best versions of ourselves, in a supportive community where we are encouraged to challenge ourselves every day and break through the limiting barriers we have created for ourselves.

We have begun our very own community of like-minded individuals all working towards the same common goal, to be strong, confident, healthy humans.

If you are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with then you want to keep that circle tight and elite. Work until your idols become your friends and save the rivalry for the person in the mirror that keeps trying to hold you back.

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If you want to be part of a community that embraces who you are as an individual come and join us.